Thursday, January 3, 2013

The Meanings of Life

Deklan,

I had a dream where I asked my mom what the meaning of life was, or some life lesson to pass on to my children, and she showed me dental equipment. Maybe she was saying to floss, but I decided to start a little list of things I think will be important for you to know-

From Carol Martin- "everything will be ok" some of the last words she told me. She also told me I struggled with school and wanted to give up that sometimes things just work themselves out. You just do what you can, you just try and give it your best, and things work out- they just do.

From Grandma Frances- Love your mom very much, greet her and tell her you love her. Help her when you can. A mother's job is to provide warm beds, good food, and clean clothes for their babies. A Father's job is to keep his family happy and provide for them.

From Granny Frankie- (why she loved to be called Granny I'll never understand) in regards to motherhood/fatherhood, nature will just take over. You'll know what to do because your body will just do it.

From me- (maybe not the most sacred advice but here's what I think about life) I think that a lot of life is nature. Everyone is born, everyone dies. Part of you is biologically me and your daddy, so in some ways you are exactly us. Many of your decisions in life will be made the same as we did, because your science/nature/very chemical makeup drives you to have certain needs.

Also, I've thought long and hard about why we had you, so don't ever wish you were never born, never second guess our love for you- 1. we wanted to continue on our families and my side had just taken a big hit, loosing 3 important people. 2. From the moment I met your daddy, I knew he deserved a great family, not just a awesome. hot wife. 3. I've been praying for you since I was very small. 4. Just as I suspected, you have already touched and bettered so many people's lives. It really is remarkable the ripples you've made on the world in just 7 mos. 5. You give us reason to breathe, reason to wake up, reason to work hard, reason to forgive... 6. I believe God must've had a plan by allowing specifically you to come into our lives (google Golden Ratio- nothing lacks divine design).

We hope to have siblings to help support you, to teach as you teach them; to help you discover things you never knew about yourselfm and help you understand the importance of family.

Other quotes I favor:

 "The meaning of life is to find meaning in life"
       From mom- you are constantly learning. Give your life meaning. Constantly search for meaning, understanding, knowledge, compassion, joy, empathy, love, nirvana- the best version of you you could possibly be.

"I believe in God, but not  as one thing, not as an old man in the sky. I believe that what people call God is something in all of us.I believe that what jesus and Mohammed nd Buddha and all the rest said was right. It's just that the translations have gone wrong" -John Lennon
            From mom  -This is the best quick description of how I view religion. Even if I'm wrong, I'm practicing tolerance and humility.

" The American way of stress is comparable to Freud's 'beloved symptom,' his name forthe cherished neuorsis that a patient cultivates like the rarest of orchids and does not want to be cured of. Stressmakes Americans feel busy, important, and in demand, and simulataneously deprived, ignored, and victimized. Stress makes them feel interesting and complex instead of boring and simple, and carries an assumption of sensitivity not unlike the Old World assumption that aristocrats were high-strung. In short, stress has become a status symbol."-Florence King
            -This just makes me think.

"If you understood everything I said, you'd be me."- Miles Davis
           -You'll never be 100% understood 100% of the time, except by yourself POSSIBLY, so get to know yourself well before putting huge expctations on others.

"Everybody wants to save the world, but nobody wants to help mom with the dishes."- PJ O 'Rourke
           -Rejoice in helping in the shadows, doing the dirty work, forgoing the credit. God knows your heart and your intentions, not just your timecard.

"Have you ever stopped to consider that what you call shyness might just be ego? Perhaps your anxiety over how others might pereive you is just a coward's version of vanity."-unknown
           -Remember this if you ever fear girls/rejection. Be humble enough to know that you are not going to please everyone, not everyone will be attracted to you but plenty will too. SO many in fact, that weeding through the peach lovers (see quote below) to find "the one" will seem impossible at times.  

"Replace fear of the unknown with curiosity." -unknown

"You can be the ripest, juicest peach in the world, and there's still going to be someboody who hates peaches."- Dita Von Teese

"If it makes you happy do it. If it doesn't then don't."
            -so simple! yet so hard for me. I get too caught up in "does it makes others happy?"

Hope this finds you when you need it most-
Love always,
   Mom

1 comment:

  1. I love this. It makes me think about all the wisdom passed down from our mothers, our grandmothers, and so on. It makes me think about what I want to pass on to Tyler and what is important in life. Thank you for your thoughtful words!

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